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August 23, 2014

Solo not So Low

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As one gets older, one of the things a single person may experience is loneliness. Nonetheless, what’s one to do? Stay in a pitiful low state because you are alone? No. It’s one of those things you have to learn to embrace, get past, even learn to enjoy. It’s not going to change until it changes so why be miserable and stay in a constant state of looking and waiting for that one and only.

After a while, everything you do is based on whether you think that person is going to be in the place where you show up. Ai yai yai! I’m tired already because it’s too much thinking, planning, and focusing on the imaginary instead of dealing with today, now—your real gift of life. Stop waiting and get busy and doing. A dear friend encouraged me just the other day to go to a concert that I had wanted to go to. I was debating because I just did not want to go by myself, but once I got there I enjoyed myself so I’m glad the Lord allowed me to push past myself and go. It was a blessing.

giving-challengeSingleness is a gift. Yes, I hear the sighs and the dull wind of those eyelashes whipping as your eyeballs are rolling. I’m not going to argue the point because it says it in the word. So if it says it in the word, God didn’t allow just any old word to represent Him so we need to align ourselves and be open to understand how singleness is a gift.

I’m not saying it’s a gift we wanted, but if we are still single and up in age then God does have His reasons. It might be that it’s a gift we needed  So open up the box, don’t try to return it because it’s nonrefundable. God will replace it when and if the time is right. So my suggestion to my fellow single ladies is don’t hurry up and try to find somebody to put a ring on it. That may be more trouble than you know. And single men, don’t be in such a rush to find someone to place a ring on. God may have you percolating for a reason as well. Again, ladies, stay in your place, let God allow the man to find you. He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing. Are you a good thing?

My pastor makes it a point to replace good with Godly? So answer that question now. How can you be more Godly,? Well perhaps that where the gift of singleness comes in. Draw closer to God and He will draw closer to you. Knock on the door and He will be the one to answer. Seek Him and all of His goodness and all other things will be added unto you. Delight yourself in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart—your newly submitted committed, Godly heart.

alone_with_the_alone_by_pakpaoIt’s not for singles to be so low when flying solo. I recently saw a movie where a woman was walking down the street and saw her ex-boyfriend with his new fiancé. Imagine the worst case scenario and then multiply it by fifty. Of course they were extra happy and extra lovey-dovey, so in her humanity—and by that I mean sin—she felt the need to make up an imaginary boyfriend. We already know this is a bad idea, right?

Later on, after having lied and saying that she was meeting her boyfriend for dinner, who should show up at the place where she was dining alone? Of course…we multiplied it times fifty remember? They had to come into the very same restaurant out of all 600 restaurants in the neighborhood. Well, she tried to carry on the story, but she was going down faster than a speeding bullet. The chef, who had no idea what she had told her ex-boyfriend, unknowingly, busted her. The ex-boyfriend inquired where that wonderful boyfriend she had been raving about was. He had his reasons—first and foremost—nosiness. The chef, smiling, says to the ex-boyfriend “No…Sushi for one…always one!”

Okay! So it’s sushi for ondevotional1e and it’s always one, but if it is then enjoy your sushi and don’t be pretty with it. Or, stretch out and invite a girl friend or a guy friend to go out with you. If you are opposite sex, keep it holy, keep it above reproach. One of the first scriptures I really held on to says not to let your good be evil spoken of. Just because it seems innocent to you, don’t give people pause to talk about you because even though it’s your name is in their mouths, God is getting a bad rep because you say you belong to Him.

It’s not the easiest thing in the world to be single with a little age. I know people get super spiritual and act like it is or it’s no big deal, but God hears our concerns and tells us to cast them on Him. He hears them and He cares for us and He doesn’t see our concerns as “no big deal.” He does however recognize when we, like my pastor tends to say, “are flying too low.” We don’t have to be so low when flying solo. If we take our focus off of ourselves and let the Holy Spirit fill our hearts, I believe the waters will be much easier to navigate. Sure we may may experience some rough seas at times, but the Spirit of the One who has the power to calm the raging sea and tell the winds to stop blowing is the Captain of our salvation and He will not steer us wrong when He has control.


November 24, 2012

Parents do know a thing or two without us


When you were born, you did not know which way was up or down, you didn’t know your head from your rear end, and if your parents didn’t feed you, then you would have laid around crying like a—well, like a baby! Thank God for parents. Through all the ups and downs, it’s seems that if a parent is present,  you can breathe just a tad bit easier.

However, somewhere in your teens is when you started to question, “Do they really know?” All of a sudden their style of dress was horrendous, their rules were outrageous, and their personalities were impossible! Do you remember those days? In retrospect, you ought to feel like King David when he found out that he, was the offender in the scenario Nathan laid out for him, saying “Thou art the Man! (read about this in 2 Samuel 12)” Yeah, looking back you were the one that was horrendous; you were outrageous, and you were impossible!

The twenties were a little better because now you had to live life and make choices. When the choices didn’t pan out,  God’s divine order showed you that you weren’t as smart as you thought and your parents were more knowledgeable than you knew. That’s when you  began to appreciate their wisdom a little more. Unfortunately, some of us had to bump our heads on a few cabinets and fall into a few ditches, in order to get the lesson.

ImageNonetheless, you still hung on to some thoughts about your parents lack of hipness. You even marveled when they bought a computer and actually learned how to work it without your guidance. When you saw the flavored creamers in the refrigerator you wondered “Who told them about that?” And when they signed up for Facebook and requested you as a Friend, you nearly fell out of your chair. How arrogant can we be to think that they are not  capable of finding out how to do things without us?

Another crazy twist of life is when you begin to see your parents aging. It can be a scary scenario, especially if your parent isn’t saved.  Believing in Christ unto righteousness, might have been something you were taught by your parents, but sometimes God blesses us with that knowledge in a separate experience and it is the greatest gift that we can offer to them. Nonetheless, seeing your parents age makes you really appreciate that life, even its longevity, is so very short. It’s not like God didn’t tell us. He uses James to write it saying, “Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away (James 4:14).”

With the shortness of time in perspective and the fragileness of health being revealed more and more, it’s tempting to treat our parents like they are the children. Yet, there is still a lesson to be learned from them. Yes, there bodies may lack the strength that they once had, but don’t underestimate their minds. They are still just as fierce about protecting you as they were when you were that helpless baby depending on their every move. Don’t sleep on their words. Words are more intentional as you get older. Who has time to mince when time is not promised.

Listen to mom. Listen to dad. Honor them, and search for the gems in their speech. They speak with the purpose of planting a covering for you—one that will shade you from the winds, the sun, and the storms. Are they always right? No, but ask the Lord to give you a discerning ear, so you can know what to take and what to leave. Listen closely and you’ll find that parents do know a thing or two—things that will enrich you and sustain you. God made them to be blessings for us all the days of our lives.

March 12, 2012

Stepping into Your Calling


Yesterday evening, I had the pleasure of seeing God bring a very young woman, in her twenties, into a calling that is even older than Methuselah. It’s not a light thing because her life will forever be changed. Nonetheless, realizing that your life  doesn’t belong to you is the first step in the road to  your callinImageg.

God tells us “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you;” however, if you know anything about being an adult in your twenties, thirties, forties, and so on…you also know that we have our own thoughts and plans for ourselves. We  also  do not take kindly to anyone changing them. See, but the rest of the scripture in Jeremiah 29:11 tells what the Lord says His thoughts are: “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  That doesn’t mean the road of life is going to be padded with rose petals and marshmallows (I like marshmallows a lot), but it does mean that God will be with us all the days of our lives, when we put our trust and faith in Him. We couldn’t be in better hands.

Not everybody will be called to be a minister or a pastor, but like John the Baptist, will we be able to decrease and direct the focus of our lives to the True Light, Jesus Christ? We were created for Him, By Him, and  for His purpose, so it’s just makes sense that He would know how to direct us best.

The road is narrow. Jesus tells us that. He also tells us there will be persecutions. Of course, because the servant is not greater than the Master. However, we have an expected end that is filled with joy, and the blessed assurance that we will be able to see our Lord and Savior and Loving Father face to face.


March 10, 2012

Kirk Cameron’s new documentary ‘Monumental’ traces America’s Christian roots

Is America a Christian country? It seems today that the prevailing opinions and beliefs are not Christian. Even though, there are many who describe themselves as Christian, most do not heed to God’s word, without subjectivity. That kind of belief cannot be considered real Christianity. Real Christianity is based upon God’s word given to us through the scriptures, and His word is final. So, given that for the most part, we as Americans, no longer accept God’s word from the Bible as the final authority . . . at this point we really cannot be a considered a Christian country. However, inquiring minds may want to know: “Upon what ideals, ideas and principles were the United States of America originally founded?” The answer to this question seems to be what Christian actor Kirk Cameron is searching for in his upcoming documentary Monumental: In Search of America’s National Treasures.

Continue reading this article on Examiner.com 

November 27, 2011

A gift to persecuted Christian nations— ‘Jesus: He Lived Among Us’

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Here’s a gift to get excited about. The Voice of the Martyrs presents a new animated film  about the life of Jesus in the perspective of the Apostle John. The film, which is on DVD, is called Jesus: He Lived Among Us.

The movie is a perfect gift idea because by sponsoring the film, it will be used as a ministry tool, being translated  into many of the various languages of some of the most hostile Christian nations. It will also be distributed in these nations as well. Find more about the movie, see its trailer, and see how you can help by clicking the link below.

A gift to persecuted Christian nations— ‘Jesus: He Lived Among Us’.

September 29, 2011

Examining the Sherwood Pictures film “Courageous”

Recently I had the opportunity to screen the new film Courageous. The film is from the creators of Fireproof, Flywheel, and Facing the Giants. This particular film is about fatherhood and where the ball has been dropped. Fatherhood in Jesus Christ is a beautiful thing, so check out my article on Examiner.com:   Examining the Sherwood Pictures film “Courageous”.

Ken Bevel plays Nathan Hayes in the movie Courageous. A Godly father, Nathan takes his responsibilities seriously when it comes to his daughter. This one may not make the cut guys.

September 26, 2011

God’s artistic side

I missed a sunset.  I don’t watch the sunset every night, but I was told a few days ago there was beautiful sunset which painted the skies with hues of pink. Mixed with the presence of the golden sun, I can only imagine what I missed. How beautiful it must have been—a vision of magnificent wonder.  I don’t take God’s artistic side lightly. After all, He is  the God of awesome wonders.

Every day He makes the sky a little different. In the beginning of fall the leaves are branded just a little more with shades of red and brown. And have you ever seen how God choreographs the fall of a leaf during it’s last hurrah? It’s almost like a dance the way it spins and twists and seemingly pirouettes on its stem before descending for its final bow.

You think that’s taking it too far. It’s not. The Word tells me “All things were made by Him; and without Him was not any thing made that was made (John 1:3).” So that striking leaf dance was made by Him. All things that were made were made by Him.

In the winter, the fictional mother nature gets credited for the blanketing of snow that makes the world appear as an empty canvas, but once again it’s God whose signature adorns the one-of-a-kind work of art. The craftsmanship and detail  put  into a single tree branch weighted down by the  snow; the poetry of the drip-dropping of icicles appearing on telephone lines and rooftops…it’s all so mesmerizing.

The spring brings revitalization and new life as buds appear and sprout into a splendid array of colors and clusters of tangible beauty. And alas, comes summer where the vitality of life is in full bloom, showing the strength and prime of life in a display of fullness in shades of lush green. What an awesome God! And there’s so much more…the rushing sounds of a waterfall, the quiet splatters of a running steam, the majestic sight of a snow thunderstorm, the horrifying beauty of a spinning tornado…the list could go on and on.

Now the zenith in God’s artistic capabilities came long ago when He conferred with the Godhead body to write a script where a fallen man was redeemed by One who came from heaven and descended to earth being fully man and fully God. The One was the Son of God and though the story is autobiographical it begins with the Genesis of time and ends with a book of Revelation.

The crescendo moment is often mistaken because the main character, Jesus, is beaten and crucified on a cross. They even shove a crown of thorns on His head mocking His eternal royalty. We see our hero, also known as the Lord and the Savior, in a moment that supposes a victory for darkness. However  God the Father, the Master Author duped the powers of darkness, flipping the script and  resurrecting His Son through the omnipotent power  of the Holy Spirit, consequently bringing eternal life to everyone that believes on Him.

What a story!  It’s the greatest story ever told and we are still telling it today. The script was written for me and now the Author and Finisher of my faith, gives me  the opportunity to tell the Good News of His work to whosoever will hear.

Like any great author, vivid pictures are drawn  through words and God artfully draws that vivid picture with His Word,  giving us a clear hope to anticipate the great ending scene and final hurrah. Cue the trumpet,  roll back the clouds,  enter Jesus, the Christ…and scene!