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October 31, 2012

Age Appropriate

Do children understand age-appropriate dress?

I know it’s all the rage. I know it’s “cute” and  it’s “cool,” but riddle me this…is it right? “What?” you ask.  Letting children dress upwards of their age. Not to be a fuddy-duddy, but just because everybody is doing it, does not make it a good enough reason for your child, godchild, neice or little cousin to do it.

I was walking in the shoe department at Burlington and I tell you it almost broke my heart to see a pair of heels for a child that couldn’t be more than four years old. They just learned to walk and be balanced and now we are expecting them to manage a heel. I can hardly manage a heel and I’m in my forties. Their bones are still forming and shaping and we allow them to wear a heel because they want to, or it’s “cute” or because Suri Cruise’s parent’s don’t know how to say “no” to their child.

Stop the madness! (Picture from style.chariweb.com)

I blame the consumer for this continuing trend because the supply is only there because there is a demand. The fact that this is the second time I saw this trend in a Burlington Coat Factory and there have been a good amount of months in between the first time I saw the trend to my recent visit —this tells me that the demand has not weaned.

Okay, maybe you agree with me on the baby heels, but this might go down a little harder. Why are little girls walking around in costume jewelry that looks like they should be going to a night at the Met. Forever 21 is one of the stores that teens and preteens get their trough of spectacular bling. The store is called Forever 21, but you will note that ages 12, 13, 14, and 15 through 45 are in this store.

I’m sure that Forever 21 knows the ages of the people who come in and buy their jewelry.  It’s their business to know that sort of thing, but it is not their business to tell teens and pre-teens that the jewelry they are buying is not age appropriate. You might be able to gather that from the name of the store. After all, everyone knows that 21 is that age kids want to get to because they are legal for pretty much everything and yet they are still not old. Heck, some adults would go back and stay at 21 if they could. Not me . . .been there, done that and have plenty of pictures, so I don’t need the tee-shirt.

I’m not saying that it’s wrong for them to shop there, but I’m saying that some of the pieces are just too grown, and who are they modeling themselves to look like anyway? Behind every trend there is usually a celebrity or video girl who little girls are trying to emulate. How do I know? I was a teen and the Bible tells me “there is nothing new under the sun.” I wore Madonna’s virgin bracelets, a key earring to be like Janet Jackson,  had my hair styled in a bob to look like Whitney Houston in the video “How will I know.” These were my top three influences and if you think your child hasn’t admired Rihanna, Beyonce or even Miey Cyrus or Taylor Swift you are probably wrong.

Sasha and Malia have a great example of dress in First Lady Michelle Obama.

The first daughters, Sasha and Malia are pictured with their parents. Both are lovely and very age appropriate…like mother like daughters. (Picture from the Boston Globe)

As a woman, be a good example. for the girls in your life. Give them an example of style and class at an early age. Show them how to dress appropriately for their age and express to them that there are times that they can graduate to receiving cetain privileges. Heels may be 16 or maybe 17, depending on their maturity. Then, when they are able to wear the heel, let them know what type of heel they can wear. A low heel should come first. Then explain the different types of heels. Certain heels are classy, some are funky, and some look like the person wearing it  just got off from the evening shift working the corner. Let them know that they don’t want to look like that.

People do treat you according how you are dressed, and no you may not feel that it is right, but it’s reality. Why should you want to dress like something you are not anyway? If you walk like a duck, expect  to be treated like one. And no, I don’t believe that people have the right to touch you or yell rude and nasty language at you because of your clothes, but the fact is if you don’t dress that way you don’t have to worry about it.

I still remember wearing a very revealing blouse (as I usually did before Jesus became my Savior) and I was quite annoyed as one of my coworkers talked directly to my breast. Yes, that was a jerky thing to do and I addressed him about it, but in retrospect, I realize that the girls shouldn’t have been out there. People have freedom to look, even though men disrespect themselves  as a gentleman when gawking. I mentioned that I stopped wearing blouses like that when I got saved. That was not a decision anybody told me to make, it was the conviction of the Holy Spirit who guided me to see that it wasn’t how I wanted to represent myself or the Lord. He even showed me how it looked when I had to serve someone who came up to me with everything out there. As much as I didn’t want to look, I couldn’t help looking because it was in my face.

Clothes come with attitudes. You walk a little different in certain shoes or when your bust is exposed. You feel a little sexier when your jeans are tighter. But my question is what is a  teen/pre-teen doing feeling sexy anyway? It’s not their time for all of that.  They should feel cute or pretty, but sexy is not for kids.

Again, women—be their example. Let them desire to emulate you. Let their friends say “Your mother/aunt/ cousin/godmother sure does dress well.” They’ll see a respect that can’t be gained with “cheap” and “half-naked.” Besides those things are a dime a dozen these days. Style and grace, however, will always turn heads. Add humility and the beauty that only God can give and you are untouchable at any age.

December 21, 2010

The Best Looking You on a Budget

Believe it...You can look your best on a budget!

In these times of economic challenges, there is still no excuse for not being the “best looking you” you can be. This is a message to me as much as it is a message for you because there are times when I reason and make excuses for not doing what I need to do to keep my appearance up. Now I don’t let it go to the extreme because as a woman, I can’t get too far out there…the girly girl kicks in really fast. However, I say this as an encouragement to those who have found themselves in the position of looking at their wardrobe and feeling  “the blahs!” Even if funds are not abundant, that’s not a reason for you not to put your best foot forward in your appearance. A very wise woman knows that even if she only has two blouses and two pants she should first thank the Lord for having what she has and then keep the two blouses and pants washed and neat.  Also in acknowledging Christ in all of your ways, God can show you how to accessorize and mix up your wardrobe.

It’s like those mothers who turned canned meat and instant potatoes into a meal fit for a king. You do the most with what you have. The Bible even tells us to be faithful in a few things and then God would make us ruler over many(Matthew 25:21) . It also tells us to humble ourselves before the Lord and He will exalt us (Luke 14:11). No you may not be able to get the designer names, but with a little work you could look just as good. And guess what? I have a friend who gets whatever designer names he wants at the thrift stores. He has staked them out and gets top-quality clothes with very little coinage.

There are lots of chic finds at affordable prices to be found at consignment shops, vintage stores and thrift stores.

So we have established that it takes work. You can’t just wish for it. Check out your local thrift stores, consignment shop, vintage shop or outlet store. True outlet stores have deep discounts, so investigate and find out where some of your thrifty friends do their shopping. You may find out that those fancy duds don’t cost as much as you think they do.

Check out your major department stores because clearance prices can be extreme.  Nordrstrom  Rack and Macy’s are fantastic with their clearance racks. You also should look at your Marshalls, TJ Maxx, Burlington and Ross stores as well.  I saw a woman the other day who looked so great I had to ask her where she got her whole outfit.  The boots she was wearing may have been $150 to $200 and she got them for around $35 dollars at Marshalls. Her whole outfit was from Marshalls and it was beautiful.  And look, let’s get out of this prima donna /diva status where we can’t rifle through the racks.  Yes, it can be a little frustrating if you really like to have things orderly, but treat it like a treasure hunt where the ends justify the means.

After Christmas is the perfect time to see the deep discounts. Remember that retail is always a season ahead, so if you buy off-season (as in a season behind), you will be able to stock up for the next year. Don’t be stuck on buying something because it’s the style right now. Buy smart!

Some say the best things in life are free. Will you be to proud to accept it? My church does a yearly giveaway and we are instructed to give things that we would want to receive. We are told that we should give that thing that we want to keep. See, when you give like that you are sure to be a blessing.  I’ll never forget a family that came to the giveaway and found a winter coat for their son. It was a big black, bubble-coat. It was quite stylish, so the little boy who was probably about eight or nine was happy to receive it. More than the look on the little boy’s face was the look on his father’s face.  I could have cried when seeing the relief it brought to that father who would not have to figure out how to adjust the family’s finances or neglect paying a bill to  get his little boy a coat. Look on listings like Craigslist and you will see a section that simply says FREE. You will find listing for giveaways, people simply wanting to give all kinds of articles from furniture to exercise equipment to clothes.

You can find things that represent you within your budget, but you have to be willing to do the work. Aren’t you a worthy cause?

December 15, 2010

The Ultimate Gift!

Jesus was our gift at the manger and on the cross!

There’s something about the holidays! Whether it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas or  New Years,  the holidays bring out the extreme optimism or pessimism of human nature. I prefer to focus on the optimism. Christmas, for instance, is a time that people are thinking about someone other than themselves. Giving is a really big thing around Christmas, as well it should be. Christmas is about giving and it all stems from the greatest gift the world has ever received – the gift of Jesus Christ.

Imagine being in a nice comfy position sitting with God, the Father. Your home is heaven and every need is catered to. All the angels rejoice 24-7  because you are God, the Son. You are the only begotten Son and you love God, Your Father. There’s no place you’d rather be than with Him, after all you  are one with Him. Now, imagine giving that up because your creation, the ones you created in your image, have sinned against you. Not really a motivating factor, but it was for God. The Creator’s mind was in rescue mode to save His creation.

God knew mankind was on  a fast-track to Hell unless a Savior could get them out of their mess.  Sure, the Lord could have sat back and let us all go to Hell, but that’s not the kind of God we have. Our Father and our Savior, put their plan into action and Jesus gave up his throne on high, to do His Father’s will.  So as the Bible tells us, Jesus came to this world, being born of a virgin in Bethlehem and that little babe grew up to live a sinless life, which would be sacrificed to atone for the sins of the world.

 Jesus’ sinless life was given as a gift to the world; some would receive Him and others wouldn’t. Nonetheless, He continues to be our gift and His life and death makes  it possible for His children to receive eternal life with Him. That’s a reason to give God glory.

In our gift-giving this holiday season, let’s not forget about the Greatest Gift, Jesus Christ, who gave us the ultimate gift of salvation. He gave us a reason to be optimistic, don’t you think? It’s easy to get caught up in all the commercialism that Christmas time has come to symbolize, but if we keep the true Christmas spirit alive and well in our hearts and cherish the gift of Jesus Christ, we’ll be less likely to run after the false Christmas traditions! Beautifully yours, Avon Representative, Monica Johnson.

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September 17, 2010

Don’t mistake my meekness for weakness!

 

Meekness demonstrates humility and strength in one.

Have you ever had a moment you would love to take back? Ever gained an understanding and wanted to apologize for the misunderstanding? I have one of those moments that I think about ever so often.

It all started with this statement: “You are meek!” Once, before I knew Jesus as my Lord and Savior,  someone said that to me, and I showed him just how meek I wasn’t. I literally snapped at him, because I thought that he was trying to call me weak. He explained that it was a compliment, but it was the last thing I wanted to hear. Meek = Weak...end of story.

Well, fast forward to getting an understanding in Christ and what do you know? Meek doesn’t equal weak.  My addition was wrong beacause I needed to subtract my pride from the equation. Meekness is a beautiful quality in God’s sight. Our meekness shows humility, patience under provocation, and our compliance to instructions. It’s important to be able to follow instructions without trying to be like Frank Sinatra and doing it “My way” or like Janet Jackson taking “Control.” Can you see how that’s beautiful in God’s sight? Hello!!! His name is God…He doesn’t need us calling the shots. He’s the shot caller. He has everything under control, even our lives.

Contrary to what Ms. Jackson told us, we don't always have to be in control.

Whenever we go to God in sincerity, acknowledging His power and relinquishing ours, that is a sign of meekness. A person who doesn’t lean to his/her own understanding and willingly gives up their control is teachable. Psalms 25:9 tells us: “The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way.” It couldn’t get more awesome than that! God does the teaching when we give up the reins and demonstrate meekness.

Look at Jesus! At any time, Jesus could have said “Hold up! I’m God! I don’t have to die for these unappreciative, evil, unforgiving people.” Can you imagine if He did? Thank God He didn’t or we would all being looking at an eternal life in hell. Instead, Phillipians 2:8 tells us: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.” You’ll never find a greater example of meekness than that.

Oh how I would love to apologize to the man whose head I chewed up and spit out for calling me meek. I’d love to tell him, “I finally get it!” Nonethess, I have to admit that I woudn’t recognize him if he was wearing a t-shirt that said, “I’m the one whose head you chewed up and spit out for calling me meek.” I guess I’ll have to chalk it up to a humbling life lesson  for me. As for you, remember meekness is beautiful in God’s sight because Meek + God = Strength…end of story!

Here’s what God has to say about the meek:

The meek shall eat and be satisfied: they shall praise the LORD that seek him: your heart shall live for ever (Psalms 22:26).

The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way (Psalms 25:9).

But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace (Psalms 37:11).

The LORD lifteth up the meek: he casteth the wicked down to the ground (Psalms 147:6).

For the LORD taketh pleasure in his people: he will beautify the meek with salvation (149:4).

Beautifully yours, Monica Johnson, Avon Representative: http://mjohnson5184.avonrepresentative.com/

 

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August 28, 2010

Going past the comfort zone

Red-haired girl

I used to be a big Peanuts fan. It’s only in the last several years that I realized that Charlie Brown was chronically depressed. Even so, Charlie Brown is a great case study of someone desperately desiring to get past his comfort zone. Think of the little red-haired girl, who was the object of his affection. He plotted and planned to have a conversation with her and then chickened out, and plotted and planned and chickened out again, and again, and oh yes…again. Then one day he finally did it. He talked to the little red-haired girl. No doubt his heart was palpitating, his words may have jumbled, but He took the risk and came out of his comfort zone to do it. Doing what you are so nervous about is half the battle. You breathe a sigh of relief and know no matter what the outcome – you did it!

This may be a stretch, but I’m feeling limber…let’s relate this topic to beauty. I’ve known people who stick to certain colors, hairstyles, pant or top lengths, and shoe styles because they don’t feel comfortable wearing anything else. That’s called a rut, and sometimes as a result of  insecurities,  reinforced by family, friends, or the not so friendly “in-crowd,” we have made the decision to stay in that rut. Why? Because it’s our comfort zone. We can hide or disguise in order to stick within our range of comfortability. Can you relate?

In retail, you see this  sort of thing all the time. Someone comes in a store and has a color scheme they absolutely need to stick to. God forbid, they wear a red…that’s too trashy, or a yellow…that’s too bright for their skin-color, but what about wearing that forbidden color as a belt or a shoe? They could even play with the color in a chunky neckace or bracelet. No color should be absolutely off limits!

Did you know that comfort zones aren’t necessarily the things that we hide, they can also be the things we expose. Ever wonder why it’s so easy to show off your body with absolutely no inhibitions. Could it be that your comfort zone is the attention you get when your body is exposed. God calls his children’s bodies His temple, so does His temple need extra clothes or is a half-dressed temple a fitting place for the Holy Spirit to dwell.  If I could encourage you to do away with one comfort zone, this would be the one. Don’t make yourself merchandise for anyone, you’re better than that. You are priceless.

 More comfort zones to expose? But, of course. You’ve got your people who don’t wear stripes because it makes them look too fat! Then there are the no skirts without boots gals, who say their legs are too skinny, and don’t forget the red-heads with a closet full of green and that’s it! My advice – wear your stripes and make them vertical, or even vertical with alternating size stripes in between. Be comfortable with your legs…boots are hot in the summer. Red heads, I know that it can be hard to match your hair with other colors but it doesn’t hurt to experiment. Outbake the baker, be a smart cookie and do your own research.

Though her forehead is big, singer Sade Adu does not hide it.

Now this next topic is near and dear to me. It’s the forehead issue, to which you hear the reply: “Now you know my forehead is too big to wear my hair away from my face.” If I had a dime for everytime I heard someone say that about themselves or their child…I would be about a dollar richer (Okay, I’m not getting loaded off this comment but you get my point.) Obviously Sade didn’t get that memo because she’s a beautiful big forehead rockin’ woman.  I mean no disrespect, but with a forehead like Sade’s somebody had to tell her that it’s best for her to cover it up. Apparently, she didn’t listen because now it’s her trademark (along with her music, of course). So grab a pair of killer hoop earrings and let your forehead be your guide.

 You can choose to stay nestled in your comfort zone (except for the over-exposed example). It’s okay. Just like Linus loved his security blanket, don’t let anyone take it away from you, if that’s what you like. Just do it because you want to, not because someone has put you in a corner and forbid you to come out of it. In the words of one of my favorite movies: “Nobody puts Baby in a corner (Dirty Dancing, 1987).” Break out! Whether it’s weight, height, acne, complexion, colors, facial features, bodily features. Challenge yourself to break down the barriers and become more confident in who you are. Do it with class and grace and knowing that physical things will pass away, but the best possible comfort zone is the comfort of salvation in Christ. Beautifully yours, AVON Representative Monica Johnson

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